It’s snowing! And yesterday I had Jaxon in the stroller with just a sweatshirt on, and Willie was the happiest dog ever, soaking up the sun and spring-like weather. Crazy.
So this morning, Weezy loves picking out her outfits for school, so I told her to make sure she picked something warm. She was SO excited and ran into tell me to come look what she picked out. I came into her room to see she grabbed her “OH SNAP” ugly sweater (her words) with the gingerbread man on it.
Oh, to be a Kindergartener. I mean, she made a good point when she said it was the softest, warmest sweater she had in her drawer. I totally would have let her wear it if she wanted to. I gently reminded her that it was a Christmas sweater and she cracked up laughing, said she would wear it, and that it was almost Christmas (she wishes), but then went with the other sweater she “halfway liked, halfway didn’t like” so that she could save this one for when Christmas comes back again.
My favorite thing about Ella is she doesn’t care and is always being herself. She’s not into princesses or Barbies (just dogs), and tells me all the time she likes doing her own thing rather than doing what everyone else is doing. Last week all she talked about was wearing her Beatles t-shirt. She was obsessed and talked about it the ENTIRE weekend. I honestly thought maybe someone at school mentioned them, and she wanted to impress someone, until Monday when came home totally pissed off that her friends thought The Beatles was a movie or cartoon. She rolled her eyes and said: “um, guys its only like the most famous music group ever.” Dying.
The Friday Five
1. Something to Read:
Everyone needs to read this book. Mark Manson is amazing. I will be honest, in the very beginning of the book I was kind of taken aback by his tone, but then halfway through the first chapter he had me and I just breezed through hanging on his every word. Mark not only makes many very enlightening points about life, but he is also great story teller. This book really opened my eyes to taking an “inventory of my life” as he says to scrub out all but the most important items. He talks about the “problem” of happiness … being that we always say that we will be happier if we get that great job, or lose ten pounds, find a boyfriend, get married, or whatever X to get to Y that sounds most fulfilling to you but really this is the problem. Happiness is not a solvable equation.
I have so many favorite quotes, but one of my favorites was: “The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience.” How true? He wants you to not give a f*ck, but don’t be a psychopath … we have to care about meaningful things, but stop caring so much about the little things that don’t really matter in the long run. There is so much more I want to say but I will end with the fact that this was brilliantly well-written. It’s deep, yet made me laugh at times. It also made me shed a few tears at the end. If you are looking for an entertaining, yet thought-provoking book that will help you better yourself and shift your perspective from caring SO much about the crap that stresses you out, to focusing mostly on what really matters, this is for you. I wouldn’t even think twice, I would put it in your Amazon cart right now!
Mark was recently on the Him & Her Podcast by The Skinny Confidential and he seemed like a really great guy. I learned about this book from I think Michael’s instagram but both he and Lauryn were snapping it a bunch, and I couldn’t have come across it at a better time. It was all things I needed to hear, and I honestly cannot wait for this guy to write more books because I will read them all.
2. Natural Deodorant: Pit Paste
Okay, so from not giving a f*ck to armpit sweat. Lovely, right?
I just have to say that I have been using this for about a year-and-a-half and it is THE BEST. I’ve gone through countless “natural” deodorants, and nothing worked like this. I tried everything at Whole Foods and wouldn’t go for this because it was the most expensive one. Well, it works. And, this tube lasts me forever. Do it. You won’t regret it! I love the unscented. I have had a few friends break out from the scented ones (I am not sure where they source their EOs) … but I have also had a friend tell me she went through a bunch and the lavender worked best for her, no breakouts. I don’t sweat a ton, even in heated power yoga (it was actually part of why I fell in love with it, I actually would sweat), but I have surveyed a TON of my hot sweaty yoga and fitness friends (who claim they sweat bad) that now live by this deodorant. You also only need a little bit, and it lasts me the whole day!
3. Beauty: Drybar
Last Saturday I was in New York City for my gorgeous sister-in-law’s bachelorette party. We had a packed day of activity which included lunch and blowouts at drybar. First off, this place is gorgeous. I loved the entire vibe. There’s no cuts, colors or anything, just blowouts and styles. This was my first experience here, and I was blown away (no pun intended) by the talent of my stylist . Whenever I add any type of curl to my hair it falls out in 10 seconds, I didn’t wash my hair until Wednesday because the curl stayed so well (and I actually liked it better when they weren’t as tight). You can choose from a menu which style you want and my stylist and I decided to go with a cross between the Mai Tai and Cosmopolitan. I took a pic on snapchat of the back of my hair and forgot to save it but here’s one I took while getting readyso I could show my mom lol:
There’s one in Philly and I told her we should go Mother’s Day weekend! I can’t wait!
4. My New Obsession!
I found these at Whole Foods a couple of weeks ago and I can’t get enough. They are grain-free, use avocado oil over any other nasty toxic oil, simple ingredients, and taste amazing. I already have so many recipe ideas for things I want to make, but honestly they are so good just to snack on. Too good. When I went to snap a picture Jaxon was yelling “chips, chips!” and went to grab them … it was waaaaay too cute to not post this one!
5. Happiness Jar
I read once somewhere that our brains tend to remember our bad experiences in life. Negative emotions generally involve more thinking, and the information is processed more thoroughly than positive ones. This is why some people will often tell stories more about people who wronged them, or bad experiences, than those really good moments in life. Bad emotions have more of an impact than good ones. You can get positive feedback from 100 people, but if one person says something negative that strikes a cord on a personal level, that is what you may remember or focus on. I know it has been true for me, because I have personally experienced it.
Back in January, a member of my online healthy home and essential oils group told us about the concept of a happiness jar. Basically every day (or every week, however often you like) you put a little note in the jar about something that makes you happy or something good that happened. We have been doing this as a family, and Ella especially has loved it!
On New Year’s Eve you open the jar, take turns reading notes (or just read them to yourself if you want to just do it for you) and reflect on all the little moments throughout the year that made you happy. I’ve been adding dates to most of them too!
Circling back to my book recommendation above, this is a good way to scrub out all but the important items, hanging onto the good moments that us pass by so quickly. Writing those happy moments down and reflecting on them will help us to create more happy memories over the negative memories … which can lead to a happier more content present!
We’ve had a stressful/chaotic few months as a family, things have gotten much better, but this happiness jar idea came at the perfect time and it really did help us to focus on gratitude for our blessings in life … and we’ve really enjoyed adding to it! I got the cute jar in the dollar bin at Target, and the label (that seems to be peeling) was a leftover Christmas tag 🙂 It isn’t too late to for you start one!
I hope you all have a great weekend! What would you put into your happiness jar today?