“Normal eating” means different things to different people. We are all different. However, we can all benefit from reading Ellyn Satter’s definition that I posted last night.
It’s more about behaviors surrounding what you consider normal.
“Being able to give some thought to your food selection so you get nutritious food, but not being so wary and restrictive that you miss out on enjoyable food.”
When clients tell me about the things they eat, it 9 times out of 10 sounds almost perfect. I have never once in the history of my career pointed my finger and said “you must be lying, that doesn’t add up.”
I trust my clients. It doesn’t matter though what they’re telling me. What matters most is how honest they are with themselves. I find that usually they aren’t lying. They are telling the truth. That day. It’s all of the other days, weeks that they aren’t as eager to talk about food choices that I am not hearing about. Once they have a week of “perfect” eating they want my feedback.
That’s a lie. I get a lot of “confessions” from clients. They aren’t even confessions, some of them, when I ask “how was your weekend” on Monday night will flat out say: “we ate too much, drank too much, and didn’t exercise.” Just what your trainer wants to hear.
With that said, somewhere between perfection and overeating is balance.
“Normal eating is overeating at times, feeling stuffed and uncomfortable. And it can be under eating at times and wishing you had more. Normal eating is trusting your body to make up for your mistakes in eating.”
So where do we stand? When do I as a trainer say “oh, it’s okay that you overate and didn’t move all weekend…you only live once!”(?) Or do I ever say that? How do I teach a client about balance.
Well, for starters, I kill them physically in our session that day Just kidding. Sort of.
What does eating balanced even mean? I believe that is also something that is different for different people.
I honestly don’t think you can find balance until you let go of perfection. In eating, exercise, or life. We are not perfect beings, so why do so many of us try to behave or portray ourselves as so?
Life gets messy, we over eat at times, we skip workouts.
It’s how we pick ourselves back up and get moving the next day. Not by under eating. Not by spending 2 hours on a treadmill. Not my micromanaging your family around to make sure the house is in “perfect” order when things get too messy.
It takes time…and ironically letting go of perfection is another thing you can not do overnight. But you can do it.
This is my challenge tonight that I want you to work towards. Think about the things in your life you try to perfect—what does that accomplish? What could you accomplish if you were able to just move on as opposed to striving to fit into the mold or ideal that you have in your head?
In my experience, I have had much greater success when I came to terms with the fact that no one was perfect, myself included.
That’s all for tonight! More on my experience with finding balance soon.
If you were able to find balance in your life after years of striving for perfection—what steps did you take to get there?
What’s something you wish you were more forgiving of in yourself?
Thanks for following along with this 100 days challenge thus far!